Sunday, March 4, 2012


The other night the my wife and I started talking about when we wanted to have/start the process of another child. We definitely wanted to have time between so our daughter could get time on her own and we didn't want to have two in diapers. When talking about all of the parts of having another child (expenses) we talked about daycare. Currently our daughter goes to daycare at my best friend/her godmothers in home care, I worked there when I was in high school and wouldn't want her to be anywhere different. Because we know them we get a bit of a discount and are so grateful for that, however we realized even if we got the discount continued there is no way with our current salaries that we could afford to have another one in daycare.
So then talking about what we could do about this because we defiantly want to have another child, we came to the conclusion that I would open an in home daycare and work from home. I was hesitant with this idea because working daycare before I know how overwhelming lots of kids can be. We brought up the idea to our friends (my wife's high school friends) who are all starting to or having children and they said that they would totally have their kids come to our daycare. This is the only way I would do this because A) its guaranteed income and B) They are good people.
The inner struggle I have is that in order to make it convenient for them we would need to move to the city my wife grew up in which is 20 miles away from where we live now (the city I grew up in) where my moms and sisters and friends live. I feel like so many things are pushing this to happen, so many things are falling into place and when this happens I feel like it is the universe telling you this is the path to go on.
However I have not brought this up to my friend who is my current daycare to let her know my plans, so much to think about how I will tell them. Part of me feels bad yet I have to do what is right for me and our family and we want more children and this is the only way.

Send good thoughts our way while we start searching for a new house in a new city and move our life forward.

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Questions for fellow bloggers

What made you decide to post pictures of yourself and your family on your blog? as well as why or why have you decided to not say the names of the members of your family?

I have so much to share in my life and trying to code names, or not show pictures of my progress is a little hard. Yet this is the internet and I am not sure how I feel about putting my family out there.

Thank you for your input

Monday, February 13, 2012

Things are looking up

I finally got an offer for a job. Let me start by saying that I was fired from my job a year ago November, so I am very grateful for this opportunity to get back into working. It deffinately is not my dream job, and I am still looking for something more 9-5 Monday through Friday, but I am very happy to not be worried about congress extending unemployment.

Our daughter is getting closer and closer to being two and boy can you tell. She is becoming ever more independent and even more strong willed. I see now how strong of a woman she will be, and how much work she is going to put us through.  But I wouldn't have it any other way. We also have noticed that we are having to hold strong to our rules and not give in for one offs. The biggest hurdle we have is our daughters addiction to her "bubba" (pacifier), she is a total addict, lets put it this way when she goes to bed she has three she sleeps with, one for her mouth and one in each hand. Well in the past when she was tiered or we were going to snuggle on the couch and watch a movie we would allow her to have it, however now any time she has a shoo on she starts demanding the bubba. Time to crack back down to bubba only in bed. This will be a hard struggle especially when we start the weening process.

We are starting to plan for her birthday and this is so difficult. We have so much family and friends (that we are so grateful for this problem) that last year on her first birthday it was a mess of gifts and people. This year we were thinking of splitting up and having a friends and family separate, but then its hard to plan two parties. So we decided to just have it all together in one area that the kids can run and play and there will be beer to help calm the nerves. Wish us luck with this.

I am still trying to get into the habit of posting as much as I read.

Wednesday, December 7, 2011

Where do I start

I had originally started this blog as a way to reach out to other lesbian moms and share stories. Well I found so many already out there that it really was great to compare and contrast.
So our daughter Casey was born March 14th 2010 and she is/was beautiful. The birth was great and she was an amazing baby. She has fit into our family perfectly, going with the flow and being a social butterfly just like us. I went back to work after three and a half months and then 5 months later I was fired. It was really a blessing in disguise, I have the opportunity to finish my degree and spend time with my family I love every bit.
It has been more of a challenge being more of a stay at home mom but we get out and play at her daycare with my friend and are having a great time learning about each other. Now that I am unemployed we have put a delay on having a second child as soon as we planned before and we are happy about that. It is really fun getting to know Casey and allowing her to have time to herself just being a little person before we add another into the mix, especially with our high chances of multiples, and I couldn’t be happier.
Lately I have been researching heavy into something that I have been interested in for a while now and that is surrogacy. Reading so many different blogs really makes me feel closer to this cause. I cant wait to give the joy of parenting to another deserving couple. With reading all of these surro mom blogs then got me into looking at other moms blogs and reminded me that I really need to try to stick to this.
So here I go again, I will keep trying this blog thing out, I love the concept, I just hope that I can keep up with it.